Comments on Shmitten Kitten: Unscientific Poll: Invite Confusion

If he invites you to a party or a show, it's d...

2009-07-12T21:34:17.062-04:00

If he invites you to a party or a show, it's doubtful that he's doing it specifically because he wants to hang out with you. He probably doesn't want to make you a groupee either, though. It's likely that he's just inviting you because you're a friend or a good acquaintance. Or, in the case of some parties, if he wants to keep the gender ratio decent so it isn't just all guys.

The only way to know if a guy is interested in you for sure, is if he takes out the time to actually talk to you and take an interest in you. Or, if he's shy or quiet, if you approach him to talk, and he enjoys the conversation and being around you.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news here, but so-ca...

2009-07-10T12:51:53.701-04:00

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news here, but so-called "nerdy" guys break my heart x1000 harder than musician-y dudes.

@elizabethmarley agreed! ...but I support @gauthie...

2009-07-10T12:40:33.549-04:00

@elizabethmarley agreed! ...but I support @gauthier: date a nerd instead :D

...Couldn't you just ask the guy in question?

2009-07-10T10:06:25.850-04:00

...Couldn't you just ask the guy in question?

I don't usually put in a ton of time hanging o...

2009-07-10T06:17:05.147-04:00

I don't usually put in a ton of time hanging out with any one person at parties (as in DJ nights) I put on. For me those nights are about playing music and catching up with everyone there I know. So I wouldn't personally use an invitation as a come-on type thing, just because I know I'll be either scatterbrained on people or focused on music. Doesn't mean I'm -not- into a girl but for me it's never meant as a signal, yknow?

Here's an idea: Don't get into musicians ...

2009-07-09T18:27:21.612-04:00

Here's an idea: Don't get into musicians & DJs. Chances are they're into themselves more than they'll ever be into you. (Also - what if their band sucks?) Date a nerd instead.

I've had all of the above. Thanks for breaking...

2009-07-09T18:24:36.880-04:00

I've had all of the above. Thanks for breaking it down for me. These are all great points!

I'm not a DJ, but I used to do photography in ...

2009-07-09T18:11:43.605-04:00

I'm not a DJ, but I used to do photography in the music industry. I started out in clubs. So... here's how you MIGHT know.

Go, and if he invites you to the VIP area or to hang out by the booth, you're in. If you're IN the booth, then you're beyond in. I don't suggest going in w/o an invite or lingering if you do get it.

Also - did he ask you or include you in a mass email/facebook/tweet/etc? Are you on the list, so not paying cover? I could keep going.

Don't ask me. I once went on two full dates be...

2009-07-09T17:34:56.991-04:00

Don't ask me. I once went on two full dates before I was informed they weren't actually dates after all. Probably safest to just ask.