When I’m taking a short breather from bitching about whatever guy-treating-me-like-crap situation I’ve gotten myself into this month, a friend will sigh and mutter, “It is what it is.”
Ugh. Look, I’m sure she's sick of hearing me complain about how my drug dealer ex bailed on our plans (again), but I don’t need her to reiterate that to me with this sad excuse for a thought.
What I’m looking for is for my friend to tell me how to fix it! Give me some suggestions on how to make “it” different or change “is” to isn’t! Do I call him and yell like a wild banshee? Do I text every guy in my phone who has ever said I have a nice ass to boost my now-diminished self-esteem? Maybe I should try to sleep it off? Too bad it’s 5pm and I just ate an entire frozen pizza, which means I currently have more sugar-energy than a kitten in a room full of things that roll and jingle.
Friends, let’s avoid saying this horrid phrase to each other. How about instead of wasting my time contributing nothing to the conversation, you shoot a little, “That sucks, what an ass,” or “How dare he?!” my way. It’d be much more appreciated.The only people I've ever heard say the phrase, "It is what it is," are reality show contestants talking about how they fucked up during a competition. What I don't like about the phrase is how resigned it sounds. It's like you might as well just say, "Stop complaining 'cause there's nothing to be done about it anyway" and who wants to hear that from a buddy? Anyways, you're right: it sucks!