July 30, 2009

Things I’m Terrible At: Knowing When a Guy Likes Me

A while back, our reader Sabrina told us that she’s terrible at acting normal when she finds out guys like her. I stop one step short of that problem—I’m absolutely terrible at knowing when a guy likes me at all.

Despite more than a decade of dating and a subscription to Seventeen in high school, I still can’t detect the “Four Signs a Guy's into You," regardless of the magazine's quizzes, testimonials, and case studies. If he flirts, I just assume he flirts with everyone. If he stares, I think he just has something in his eye or is high. If he touches my arm, I think he’s just very tactile, like one of those people that walk around squeezing a stress ball all day.

It was like this with my first boyfriend and my last. In both cases we were friends first, so I thought nothing of their phone calls or compliments, because, you know, my girlfriends call me and give compliments, too. When they admitted their feelings, I thought they were kidding. I guess the joke’s on me.


rich said...

i have the same problem! can't tell you how many times i've heard "didn't you know i had the biggeset crush on you?" inevitably followed by "but that was so long ago" or "but we're such good friends now"

it wasn't THAT long ago!! but we're not THAT good of friends!!

le sigh.

Unknown said...

Haha, for realz Rich. It's like, "Why didn't you tell me as this was happening?" not months or YEARS later when I've already placed you in the "friend zone." Le double sigh.

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