I guess while we all watched a filmstrip of an animated uterus shed its lining during Health class in 6th grade, boys were sequestered in groups to watch a movie warning them about the dangers of girls trying to trap them into relationships. That's the only theory I can come up with to explain why all guys think this. (Maybe not all guys, just the young ones.)
Why does it seem that guys always assume that all girls want a relationship with them? I had a crush on this guy last semester, which basically went from being a crush to a challenge. We flirted and I believed that I was clear with my flirting intentions, but he didn't seem to pick up on them.
Relax! I don't wanna be your girlfriend
So it's 2011, a year I've dubbed for myself The Year of Taking Initiative. Saturday night I got good and social--and by social, I mean that I had a few whiskey diets. I ended up at his place at the end of the night. I started to "take initiative" and his response was to pull back and let me know that "he can't give me a relationship."
WHO SAID ANYTHING ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP?! He was seriously mistaken.
1. I have no time for a relationship.
2. I don't like him thaaat much. I just want to maybe end up at his place every so often on a Saturday night.
3. I have a date with another guy next week! I'm a single lady enjoying the single life.
Maybe if guys realized that there are many girls out there who are single and are satisfied with being single, they would be able to have a better time with them knowing that they are likely on the same page.
However, it's a riot when you tell him that just 'cause you hook up doesn't mean you want him as your boyfriend. He furrows his brow as he processes it like he's trying to wrap his head around the implications of String Theory. It's so easy to blow their minds it's almost not fair.