April 3, 2012

Oh No He Di'int Just Avoid Saying Hi To Me

Is this too much to ask? 
I'm not a particularly violent person, but nothing makes me wanna punch a pillow more than when a guy does this. Can't he just be cool about everything? It's been a few months; shouldn't we be past this? We should be at the "swiveling around on our barstools to mumble hellos and exchange pleasantries" stage by now. I guess not because he's acting all squirrely like he owes me money or something. He doesn't owe me money. Common decency would be nice but I guess that's still too much to ask.

What's super annoying about this is that drinking a beer in a semi-dark room is the most approachable I'll ever be. I'm not checking my phone like a nervous dork. And, I'm not avoiding eye contact with him either. I'm sitting here by myself calmly sipping a pint of Fleur de Lehigh: I'm at the pinnacle of my approachability. It ain't gonna get much better than this. But, if he can't get it together to say hi here, then I don't know what to tell him.

So when he zips out of the place like his asshole's on fire without even doing a courtesy nod in my general direction, it makes me do the smirk 'n' jerk. Are we in kindergarten? Grow the fuck up! Ugh.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

was he at least good at pretending not to see you? i ask because i recently saw my ex (who i dated for several years, it's not like he didn't recognize me) in the lobby of my work building of all places. he quickly looked away as if i were a stranger - but only after making his eyes all huge and "oh shit!"-like while making eye contact with me. reeeeal subtle, guy. i chuckled.

Sarah said...

Now he is just somebody that you used to know.

Solo4114 said...

This is the same dude from a while back who refused to make contact at the same bar, no? The one who you were worried chatting with a friend of yours would scare him off, unless I'm misremembering?

He sounds...quite passive. It's a shame because this is one way that otherwise decent dudes routinely blow it. Maybe he assumes you're not interested. Maybe he's so consumed by self-doubt that he can't muster the courage to walk over and say hello. Maybe he's just...weird. I dunno.

But it strikes me that if it's been 3 months and he STILL can't get off his damn stool and buy you a drink, he ain't worth thinking about.

Anonymous said...

It also depends on the situation of the breakup. Sometimes the situation turns into "they're dead to me".

Anonymous said...

Don't sweat it sister! I can see your personality in your writing,that you probably way fun to hang out with!and if this guy can't say "Hi" to you, it's his loss not yours!! I have learned that over the years with men, to this type of guy it wouldn't matter if you looked like Cindy Crawford, & of Einstein, he would still be an ass!

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